Emotional Freedom

Marriages end at an alarming rate. In the past year over 30, 000, 000 people have been prescribed Prozac in the United States. Domestic violence, that we know about, hits one in every 6th household. Half of our marriages end in divorce. Magazines, radio, television, and even people promote this new found freedom of finding love immediately without regard to people they have left behind. It is easy to love quickly and move on. It is hard to stay the course and find emotional freedom within the relationship. Something must be done to stem this tide.

"Liberate yourself from negative emotions and transform you life"

is a bold statement by Dr. Judith Orloff in her new book "Emotional Freedom". She says that

"emotional freedom means increasing your ability to love by cultivating positive emotions and being able to compassionately witness and transform negative ones."

As she would say,

"we desperately need to know how to handle negative emotions."

We all have and deal with negative emotions both within ourselves and in others. Her work on the "emotional vampire" first caught my attention some years back as she identified warning signs in emotional chaos. From there, she taught a healthy release for us all. She has found a guiding path for anyone to climb out of their emotional quandaries.

Check out her four emotional types and see if you can relate to one or more of them. I know I do and it helps me get perspective with myself and others. Check out her short video on emotional freedom -- you may even end up reading the book. Lastly, remember that we all need perspective for we are here with our own set of weaknesses. My sister would say,

"we do not see things as they are, we see them as who we are."

Check out some of her quizzes ... or articles. Her variance on emotional vampires showed me how the negative side can spill over and unbalance the partner of a relationship. It is good to be aware of the various vampires that we or our spouse can foist on each other. We can all be free of this emotional tyranny by facing up to the challenge of being emotionally free together.

Are you emotional free?

"Life is brimming with opportunities to learn about emotional freedom. Every success. Every heartbreak. Every loss. Every gain. How you transport yourself through these portals determines how free you can be. Begin to see each event in your life, uplifting or hurtful, as a chance to grow smarter, stronger, more light-bearing. More than ever, the time for miracles is now."

More than ever, adding to Dr. Judith Orloff's thoughts, it is time to emotionally release and begin healing with each other. In spanish there were two words for freedom. Freedom with responsibility and freedom from responsibility. It is time to stem the tide and love more deeply with responsibility ... especially in the sacred bond of marriage.